雪人の宅

Back at work on a Tuesday morning. Still not in the best of health yet.

The chalet was okay. Lots of food and drinks. Will upload the photos at a later date (yesh, I know still got pics of Japan, Celine's wedding, etc). Too bad, the ex-colleagues couldn't come, if not it would be a blast!

Nonetheless, we are having a gathering at Jyna's house tomorrow night, so that makes up for it.

Was just rejoicing for one of my girlfriend that she got attached recently (to someone I know again. The world is just too small), and the next moment, my 小妹 broke up with her boyfriend. Though I can't comment much on it cos I dunno the story at all, I felt it was quite a pity. I've always though of them as chums and usually relationship on the foundation of friendship lasts longer. Turns out that all relationships are fragile.

The notion of incompatibility is always been used as the very reason for a failed relationship, but have you ever wondered is it that LOVE ceased to exist in the equation and hence the result?
When the initial heart-pounding feeling and face-blushing reaction stopped cos you are so used to the person, that is probably when you'll find incompatibility as the reason for what you will do next. I mean if 2 characters are so incompatible together, how did they even get together in the first place? Well but unless one of the person is deliberately hiding the true self from the other party, incompatibility doesn't seem to validate as a reason.

So what the very reason I broke up with my exes?



Well as you guess,
INCOMPATIBILITY!


See? As much I dun think very highly of people who use this as a reason, I belong to one of them.

No. 1: Well, kind of considered as my "puppy love", but frankly there's no feelings involved. I kind of agreed to go out with this guy because I was young and it's flattering to be asked to go "steady" with someone. And I was probably the first in class to get a boyfriend, so it's really very very flattering. Ended 1 year later when I woke up from this stupid idea and enjoyed my singlehood for approximately 2 years.

No. 2: My longest relationship-6 years plus I think. Again, it was flattering to me for this "I-will-not-talk-to-you" attitude senior to start contacting me. Another reason probably being single for too long. We got together soon after my 18th birthday. Really thought we were gonna get married even though there were countless times when we couldn't see eye-to-eye with each other.
The last straw came when I started working after graduation and he was in his NUS finally year. We were spending so little time together and we simply couldn't understand the various situation we are in. Communication was almost impossible. And along came No. 3. He was sweet and in the same environment as me. We could talk about anything under the sun.
Yup I admit, though I have always denied in the past, that I kind of cheated on No. 2. I was already emotionally involved with No. 3 before I even broke up with No. 2. I know it's wrong and when I realised that, I initiated the breakup immediately. Some people would deem that as 2 timing, so I guess I'm guilty.

No. 3: Was really happy with me for initial period because he understands where I'm coming from, especially when we are in the same working environment. Somehow when things progressed into the 7-8th month, I kind of started picking on him. What attracted me as very naive and childlike behaviour soon became childish and foolish in my eyes. The fact that he was still doing his degree didn't help either. The last straw came when I realised that he had been cheating on me, or so I heard. Not sure how true that was, but at that point of time, it hurted me like swords piercing through my heart.

Decided to steer clear from relationships and managed to do that for another 2 years plus. Was constantly in touch with No. 2 though, because everyone, including my friends and family, though that we would become an item again. At some point of time, even I believed in that notion.

Singlehood was great cos you get to do everything and anything you want. But at times, especially festive times, you'll feel extremely lonely. I yearn for love but not sure if I was ready. And it came when you least expect it. A friend turned god-daddy turned boyfriend. How interesting.

I dunno when this incompatibility notion will come and haunt me again, so I just wanna make sure that I make the best out of what I have now. I will treasure this No. 4 and hopefully he's the last one~

Current status: Highly compatible.♥

小妹: Don't think too much. If things are not meant to be, then no point in pushing it. You still have all the love from me, and of course the rest of the gang. But need you to know this. 好马不吃回头草， but 好草不怕回头吃. Whatever it is, follow what your heart tells you. I'll support you in whatever decision you make.

MnM: Babe, I really wish you all the best in this new relationship because I really feel that you deserve someone who cares and loves you deeply. You are such an intelligent and thoughtful gal that you really deserve the best. May this love blossom~