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Physical
Touch
This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary
language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats
on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder,
or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and
love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or
abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense
of security and belonging in any relationship.
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Words of Affirmation
Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love
language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the
words, "I love you," are important – hearing the reasons behind
that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and
are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly
life-giving.
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Receiving Gifts
Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts
thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you
speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are
known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was
sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a
hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of
everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are
treasured greatly.
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Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely!
Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an
"Acts of Service" person will speak volumes. The words he or
she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness,
broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this
language their feelings don't matter. Finding ways to serve speaks
volumes to the recipient of these acts.
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Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you,"
like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is
critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down,
and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel
truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to
listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality
conversation and quality activities.
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